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Salam,

Mind your business boy!

I have been noticing a recent pattern of individuals who feel like they have the right to tap into your personal information because they are your “Muslim Brother”, well guess what; you should mind your business because the right of having privacy is strictly enforced in Islam. Stop trying to be big brother, keep your eye to yourself! Dajjal will have a nasty eye.

A lot of people think they can be slick by going through your personal emails or chats because they feel that you can’t hide anything if your a believer, and if you are hiding something it means you are sinning. This is shatan (the devil) at his slickest to tell you the truth. Let me give you an example:

People feel like they have a right to know because they are like “your family”, well brother I love you for the sake of Allah but you have to understand, just because we are cool with each other it doesn’t mean I have to tell you everything or you can just go through my conversations with other people. My relationship with a certain individual is not the same as yours. Let’s say if a brother came to me for help about a certain problem and he only wanted me to know for his own reputation or to avoid backbiting (ghaibah) or gossip and you just butted in. That’s not cool; you should fall back and let me breathe before I catch an asthma attack, astugfurillah.

The message that I am trying to drive to all of you is that depending on a certain situation some things need to be kept private and other things can be reveled. It all comes down to the person who is directly in the situation and his conformity level with what he or she feels needs to be told to you. So don’t butt in always, stop spying. You don’t need to. Allah is always watching, and you should always respect that business is business. The best way to look at a situation similar to this is questioning one self with the perspective” how would I feel if someone went through my private life” of course you would be angry and you would hope that person stay out unless you offer them insight.

Here is a powerful habit to reflect upon and be conscious of in our daily matters when dealing with people.

It is also narrated in al-Saheehayn from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the falsest of speech. Do not eavesdrop; do not spy on one another; do not envy one another; do not forsake one another; do not hate one another. Be, O slaves of Allah, brothers.”

Also here is some additional advice from Imam Nawami (May Allah have mercy on him)

Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “Some of the scholars said that tahassus [‘eavesdropping’] means listening to other people’s conversations, and tajassus [‘spying’] means seeking out their faults. Or it was suggested that tajassus means looking for secrets. The word is mostly used in the sense of evil. The jaasoos (spy) is the one who seeks out secrets for evil purposes and the naamoos is the one who seeks out secrets for good purposes. And it was said that tajassus means looking for information for someone else, and tahassus means looking for information for oneself. This was the view of Tha’lab. And it was said that they mean one and the same, which is seeking out information about people’s circumstances.”

Alright so that wraps it up like a mummy, Inshallah remind yourself of this very important teaching from our beloved Prophet and remember to make dua Allah give us success in this life and the next. Ameen!

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Salaam,

They say a “diamond is a girls best friend”. Some people glorify them; others horrify them. One thing I realized is that if you want to get married my brothers you’re most probably going to have to buy your wifey a blinged out rock, just make sure its not a blood diamond. So start saving up from now..Ha!

I’m not going to lie, we all love holding extravagant captivating glamorous diamonds that are beautiful to gaze upon but does it really make us happy? I don’t think so. True happiness comes in the hereafter and it certainly doesn’t come in material gains. It comes in the remembrance of Allah. Although there is nothing wrong with ballin(for those who don’t what ballin means, in New York when you someone is ballin you are referring to their riches), hey ain’t nothing wrong with ballin, the more money you got, the more money you can give for zakat .

But what I’m basically trying to say is when you marry your wife, i don’t think she will really care about the diamonds at the end of the day; rather she will perish it because you gave it to her as a gift to protect that halal marriage. Don’t forget to do the nikkah. Money doesn’t buy happiness, any rich person will tell you that. At the end of the day its the blessings of Allah (God Almighty) that makes you happy. The fact that you are Muslim, you got a family,you got health, you got the four seasons, you have the sun, and freewill, well it never stops because Allah says in the Holy Quran we could never count his blessings. They go on and on and on and on…….

One thing I noticed is that a lot of people are quick to judge people by their weddings. On one extreme, you have people who say “oh that brother threw a dunya wedding”. Then you have others who criticize others because their wedding wasn’t as extravagant. We have to be fair; we shouldn’t make fun of people who throw simple weddings, because a simple wedding is a wedding recommended by our beloved Prophet Muhammad, in one hadith our beloved Prophet said

“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.” (Reported by Bayhaqi)

So make it easy on yourselves, here is another hadith which describes one of the weddings of our beloved Prophet. Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):

“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)

So simplicity guaranteed, buy your wife a sterling silver ring, haha, na it’s all good. Just do whatever you feel is most comfortable for yourself as a Muslim. You got the recommendations in the Sunnah above–So do you. I didn’t think i would be writing this much, i was just wondering today randomly about weddings diamond rings and how much it really matters to the Muslim wifey.

Alright I’m out…wasalaam. Oh yea i wanted to mention a hadith which says poor people will enter heaven 40 years before the rich people. Wondering why? less accountability. Remember you will be judged on everything you had in this life.

“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)

Salam Yo,

I want to give a shout out to everyone who participated in the recent poll. The results are below. Basically the poll reflected if you guys were feeling my site and honestly it got me hyped, I’m not going to front because it shows you like my articles. Mashallah..

Here are the numbers below

Jazakullah for your Support..

So there you have it, the numbers, seems like the support for this site is going up. Inshallah our eman goes up also. Any hows back to the focus i want to also mention that when i first started blogging i wanted to mainly help the youth because i know the phases we go through living in this life. Trying to control our temptations, getting halal money and staying away from shatan. Well shatan is only as strong as we make him so watch yourself. But to sum it up i don’t want the upcoming generation making the same mistakes i made, you digg? So good looks on your comments, inshallah i will put more effort in making this website the number one halal spot for the youth to change.

During the week i often get emails from people telling me my articles helped them, mashallah thats great to hear it makes my day.

Your brother Saad Ahmad Rashad.Wasalaam, more articles coming soon…stay tooned folks!

and do me a favor, if you want can you go to the newest poll and give your feedback =P, for the sake of Allah

Salam,

I’ve been coming across certain Muslim brothers who feel like they have done so much haram(forbidden acts) in their life that they can never change and its too late. Wake Up!! Thats the worst way to think, shatan (the devil) is just trying to play you. Remember your still alive, as long as the rooh (soul) has not reached the throat then make moves and repent.

People get caught up with their emotions and put themselves down. We have to remember Allah (God Almighty) can save us at anytime from the hellfire, we have to do everything in our power to make a niyyah and be sincere to changing and rectifying our inner selves.

Just press this onto your heart….”You do your best and Allah will do the rest” as Mufti Abdul Rehman Ibn Yusuf told me.

Today a friend of mine asked me if a Muslim brother or sister has fornicated before marriage then do they have to marry a non virgin? Good question, i started doing my research and eventually ended up on sunnipath.com to hear my man Sheikh Faraz Rabbani’s answer.

As i was looking i found that a sister had already asked this question, basically she asked does a virgin have to marry a virgin and fornicator to a fornicator. She also said ” isn’t it true that once you have sincerely repented from the sin from the bottom of your heart, do not go back to committing it that it is as if you had never committed the sin and are as good as a pious person if not above them?

The shiekh responded- Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray that this finds you well, and in the best of health and spirits. May Allah grant you all good and success in this life and the next.

The concerns you mention are true, because as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “The one who repents from sin is like the one who never sinned.” Legally–as answers in the SunniPath QA (http://qa.sunnipath.com) explain–someone not known by people as a non-virgin is considered a virgin, and all the rulings apply to them.

And Allah alone gives success.

So don’t get it twisted. We must make an effort to change and turn to repentance anytime we do something haram, this is just one example.

Shiekh Hamza Yusuf Hanson Al- Maliki mentioned that as long as we are alive we have the ability to make our own life but even more deeply edit our movie. What he meant by this was that just like in Hollywood they make movies and they are able to edit and cut out whatever is not needed, similarly we should think about our life movie that will be shown to us on the day of judgment and while we are alive we are writing our movie script and the best way to edit it - is to repent!

We make dua Allah guides us all and forgives us for our shortcomings in this life and accept our repentance. Ameen!

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Salam,

Inshallah i want to get married one day, imagine your wife waking you up for fajr, no need for alarm clocks. You know what they say, the earlier the better!

Any hows I think we all want to get married, find a partner that can help us stay on the deen and finally get those shatan temptations out of our hearts, this society puts alot of pressure on all of us and we have to constantly keep ourselves in check. Its part of our natural inclination, if your a man you need a woman, and if your a woman you need a man. Doesn’t get any simpler than that. Allah sent eve to Prophet Adam in paradise because he felt lonely. How wonderful, Subhanullah!

As you know getting married is completing half of our deen, so you would definitely want to make sure your choice is official tissue, pray Allah gets you the right person thats helps you stay on Islam, so inshallah you can chill together in heaven reclining on couches sipping that wine. I want to put some ayahs of Surah Waqiah - which is Surah number 56, its real beautiful. Allah describes how the believers will be chilling in paradise.

[Waqia`h 56:27] And those on the right - how (fortunate) are those on the right![Waqia`h 56:28] Among thorn-less lote-trees.

[Waqia`h 56:29] And clusters of banana plants.

[Waqia`h 56:30] And in everlasting shade.

[Waqia`h 56:31] And in perpetually flowing water.

[Waqia`h 56:32] And plenty of fruits.

[Waqia`h 56:33] That will neither finish, nor ever be stopped.

[Waqia`h 56:34] And raised couches.

[Waqia`h 56:35] We have indeed developed these women with an excellent development.

[Waqia`h 56:36] So made them as maidens.

[Waqia`h 56:37] The beloved of their husbands, of one age.

[Waqia`h 56:38] For those on the right.

Wow Inshallah, Now let me talk about the real story, since the Internet has everything you can think of, including Shiekh Google, for 24 hour fatwas. Recently i have also seen a spark of Muslim matrimonial websites and advertisements for them. I don’t know how legit they are and if you agree with the process of how the marriage is set up, but it seems as if some of them are contributing to successful marriages, they even have success stories.

Alot of Muslims seeking partners seem to be using the Internet to find their spouse, but i feel uncomfortable for some reason. I guess thats me, i was just analyzing how these sites present themselves, one site called SingleMuslim.com offers random prizes such as umrah vacation for new couples, you can actually win a umrah trip for free. Yea thats hot, imagine going to umrah or hajj as soon as you get married, start a new life with your new wife fresh like new born baby’s.

One of the success stories was written by a sister named Alia she wrote ”

“Thank you so much I have found the love of my life we are due to marry early this summer. I owe this website everything inshallah I will be happier then ever before and it all down to Single Muslim allah hafiz.”

Alia, London

In addition they also have Islamic articles on marriage and how to be a good spouse, seems like they really trying to make the online service the newest way for Single Muslims to get married especially in the west and not using the traditional methods. I guess it all comes down to the situation and we must make the right decisions to approach marriage the halal way.

So what do you think about these websites and their services for Muslims trying to get married? If your looking for other ways to get married, the two biggest Islamic organizations in North America ISNA and ICNA offer matrimonial services also.

Here is a good article from sunnipath.com called “What should i do to find a spouse”?.

So we pray Allah help all of us get married to a good person and help us raise good family’s and make this society better!

Oh yea i wasn’t trying to promote any website or anything, i just wrote this article to think about these particular sites and get some feedback on what you think just for the record.

And just to let all of you know my mom does ristha’s, haha, no seriously, she told me recently she has a list of 40 girls and she has hardly any men, so if you want to get the hookup, let me know ill refer you to the my mom!

Wasalam I’m out! Just remember ” Chill Yo Islam Yo Gotta Get Married Quick and the Halal way YO!

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Salam,

The reason why i chose the title “Man Up” is because i want to talk about being real with yourself and accepting Criticism. Where i’m from when you tell someone to “Man Up”, your basically telling them to wake up, to be sincere and act like a man. Now i don’t know what the woman tell each other, but the point is you should always act upon the truth and speak the truth if you know it.

Nowadays everyone likes to point figures at the other person, but we must realize we don’t know what Allah thinks about that person, he or she might might be more honorable in front of Allah, so always put yourself below people when you see them, you never know that person might make a dua for you that can be granted. Build honest halal relationships.

We all have our “crew”, or i should say “brotherhood” which is more universally accepted. A lot of times i will chill with Muslim brothers and they will tell me my mistakes or one brother might tell another his mistakes and this contributes to the improvement of everyone on an individual level and a group level but you get the point.

One time a man came up to Imam Malik (ra), and he asked him “how did you attain such great character”, the Imam replied “I always took my critics seriously”. You can can learn a lot of wisdom from that response, instead of thinking your too good for people, why don’t you pause for a second and internalize criticism.

Some people can take criticism others can’t, i have to say i would rather have a close friend of mine or perhaps anyone tell me my faults rather than me living life without realizing my mistakes. Every one likes to run their mouth, we all know backbiting is prohibited in Islam, don’t be a vampire. So from now on why don’t we tell people straight up what we feel about them. Gossiping and backbiting like vampires destroys relationships, real people who are sincere to improving the state of their hearts and progressing in life always take criticism.

Basically what i am saying is “Man Up”, this message applies to myself and God Willing you can take it and spread it if you agree with me, but remember Our beloved Prophet Muhammad mentioned that the believers are mirrors for each other. If you can’t reflect off each other, wipe you heart with windex =)

So next time someone tells you a mistake you have made, don’t let your pride overpower your chance to improve as a person, no one walking the earths surface is perfect. We are all children of Adam and Eve.

We are all leaders, and each of us is responsible for our flock, so strive to develop yourself physically and mentally. Change starts with yourself.

Alot of people say they can’t change they world. One of the great sufi scholar’s once said ” in my youth i wanted to change the world and i realized the world will not change. But i reflect in my old age and i think if i could change myself i could have influenced my family and they could have affected the neighborhood and they could have given back to the community and the world could have improved”

Aight I’m out like acne…Inshallah “Man Up” and lets keep each other in check[ratings]

Salam,

Whether it be masjid politics or government politics, lets be real, we all want to elect the most fit individuals to run the show. This year inshallah i will vote for the next president of the United States of America, will i vote of obama, osama yo mama i don’t know, I think John Edwards is a cool dude, he has a spiritual side.

Whats interesting is that last year i had the mentality that one vote dose not count, haha, but i had to chill out and rethink this over because reality shows that choosing a president is real serious business. As Muslims we should want the best for this country in its social, political, and economic aspects.

Some people i come across often say we can’t vote as Muslims because their is no Muslim running for president or because of system we live in. Thats so stupid, well look at what happened to our country with our recent president, wouldn’t you want the best for yourself and your family, don’t you want to strive for a better society on an individual and collective level.

I don’t have a P.H.D or anything, but i’m a born citizen, not that it really matters anymore, hehe, but point is i have no intention of going overseas. I was born here and inshallah i want to live the rest of my life here, get a degree, open up a halal business, get some zabiha dollars and make moves like illegal immigrants, not really but meaning make positive adjustments in life with a modest wife.

Well some people say get your degree and go back to Pakistan since thats where your essentially from, sorry, Pakistan and busharaff i mean musharraf , is upside down right now and i feel like living as a muslim in the west is great and we should remember Allah swt put us here for a reason and we must maximize our resources and time to the fullest potential and implement the Quran and Sunnah and very much be productive members of society.

Who will you vote for? I have some more research to do, but what we must remember is that our Beloved Prophet Muhammad said “How you are so are the people put over you”, and God Almighty (Allah) says in the Holy Quran says ” God does change people until they change the conditions of themselves”.

So ask yourself what are you doing to establish a better country, obviously this life isn’t supposed to be a utopia but as Shaykh Hamza Yusuf Hanson Al- Maliki says ” this life isnt suppose to be a heaven, if enough of you work together righteously you can enhance society, you can’t perfect it” so prioritize Islam in your life and get education, because the two biggest problems in the world are Hunger and Ignorance.

Wasalaam Yo…inshallah next time i will talk about the elections more deep, not really, ha, but who will you vote for? and what do you think about the presidential race?

And another thing i wanted to mention, how often do we make supplication (dua) to God (Allah) to make this country better and guide the leaders….we should, you have no excuse not to, Allah loves when we make dua, its a direct connection to the believer and God, so make dua that our next president is most fit to run this country and Inshallah improves the quality of life everyone, citizens and immigrants…….

and oh yea Jazakullah for everyone leaving comments and sending emails showing love recently…my dua’s are with you!

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